Monday, April 2, 2018

The Quality of Your Life Depends on THIS...



I’ve noticed that life gets simpler the older I get. Maybe I’m wiser, maybe I’m just done with needless drama…or maybe I’m opening to truths that were always there, waiting for me to be ready to discover them.

I recently found one of those truths.

The quality of your life depends on the quality of the questions you ask yourself on a daily basis.
It’s that simple.

Are you waking up only to have questions running around in your head like:

“Why does life have to be so hard?”
“Why do I always feel so tired?”
“Why is he/she/a group/whatever out to get me?”
“How can they be so stupid?”
“Why can’t I find a great relationship?”

How do these types of questions make you feel? Horrible, right? Not the way you want to start your day. These questions lead to frustration, overwhelm and more stress. Forget that! These questions look outside yourself and can reinforce feelings of being victimized or hopeless.

To help create a better quality of life, start the day asking questions like:

           How can I be healthier/happier/more productive today?”
           “What do I need to do to have more clarity in my life?”
           “How can I serve today?”
           “Who can I surprise today?”
           “What am I grateful for right now?”

How do these types of self-directed questions make you feel? Empowered? YES!

YOU have the power to change the way you experience your life and asking better questions is a great way to start. Ask questions that help trigger ideas on actions you can take. You will certainly have challenges in your life. We all do. The quality of your life can be determined by the questions you ask yourself every day especially in the wake of challenges.

AN EVEN BETTER WAY TO ASK QUESTIONS…is to ask the divine part of you for guidance.

           “What would my best self do in this situation?”
           “How can I take action from my divine self here?”

Get quiet, go inside and ask your questions. Use meditation, concentrate on your heart space or simply declare “I’m asking from my highest self…” It may take some practice, but you get the idea.

Here’s a couple quick ways to remember to ask yourself empowering questions:
  • Put a sticky note by your bed to remind you to ask great questions as soon as you get up.
  • Put a reminder on your phone.
  • Add another note on top of something you use in your evening routine before bed. Questions for the end of the day could be: “What went great today?” “What could have been better?” “What could I do differently tomorrow?”

Ask better questions – from your divine self – to live a happier, healthier more fulfilled life. Monitor your thoughts and reword questions when you catch yourself in an unhealthy pattern.

One last question: how will you use this insight to change the quality of your life for the better?

Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Staying on Track


Staying on Track

I hate when that happens. You know when you spout some deep wisdom, a brilliant insight, a shining truth to someone…only to have your words come bite you in the you-know-what?

Yeah, that.

Today I was working with a client who is capable, focused and extremely successful. She has a lot going on. Most capable, focused, extremely successful people do. Her challenge was learning to move past tantalizing distractions and plow through necessary mundane tasks.

Oh, I had the answer. It was stunning in it’s simplicity and brilliance. I felt like a real smarty pants. But that feeling didn’t last long.

“When you’re evaluating these opportunities,” I told her, “ask yourself, does this bring me closer to, or further way from my goals?”

“WOW,” she said, “that makes it clear!”

“It really does,” I continued. “Ask yourself that same question when you’re caught up in specific actions and see if that makes a difference in your overall result.”

We included a spiritual perspective as part of our discussion and concluded the call on a definite high note. I felt great about her progress as I finished my notes and went on to my next task. 

A couple hours later, I took a break to have lunch and check the local news. Snow was predicted for the overnight hours and even though my commute would not be affected – I walk from my bedroom to my office on the bottom floor of my house – I was concerned. (I have a thing about snow...)

Next thing I know, it was nearly two hours later and I was sitting in front of the TV, still eating, mesmerized by a perky blonde journalist recounting the latest scuttlebutt in Washington. 

“Is this bringing me closer to, or further away from my goals?” I heard the voice in my head say.

“Oh, CRAP!” I thought (the exact phrase might have been softened here but you get the idea).

I quickly got up, turned off the TV, and got back to work…

Monday, January 1, 2018

What's your word for 2018?

I've often heard my friends say they pick a specific word to guide their journey at the beginning of each new year. I've never done that. At least not consistently or consciously. I'd pick a word that I thought sounded intellectual and oh, so spiritual to respond to my friends queries when asked. But I can't say I was dedicated to living from my word. Until now.

I have a word. And it was given to me by my inner divine voice.

Yep, that's where it came from. I was in meditation, minding my own business, being lost in the vast nothingness of the "all," when I heard - yes, HEARD - "Your word is expansive."

"Ugh, what?" I thought. But it was clear. Expansive is my word. But what did it mean for me?

And that came as well. In a flood of images, feelings and a strange knowingness it all came in. 

I'm dedicating my year to more consistently tapping into the creative, intelligent, expansive divine spirit within to expand in all areas of my life. 

I'm expanding into love, understanding, compassion and peace. 

I quickly found out that my ego is still very much in play as my immediate thought was, "OMG! I don't want everything to expand! My belly doesn’t need to get any bigger!" Silly ego.

I had to start again. I had to remind myself that the divine within wasn't trying to "trick" me into gaining weight, losing friends or becoming too "woo woo." That's all ego stuff.

I think my opportunity is to learn to expand beyond my usual self judgement, fear and worry. To really allow myself to expand into the consciousness of love as my guide in daily life. 

And when I fall short of that goal, I’ll choose again.